Why are we Hiding?

This excellent blog post hit home in a big way. The authors make an excellent point that hiding your face when posting about normalising naturism is actually antithetical to the cause of…normalising naturism.

Personally, I use a pseudonym while blogging, and exercise caution regarding facial recognition, as an important tenet of my job involves working with large groups of underage minors. One angry parent who Googles my name and comes up with the wrong image could create quite a lot of havoc.

Interestingly, this post dropped into my inbox as I was trying to book at a naturist B&B in the United States. The owner called out my use of a pseudonym, and while acknowledging the legitimacy of my reasoning, made it clear that I was not welcome at his establishment as this violates his personal code of ethics as related to promoting naturism. That’s one of the strongest responses I’ve had to all my naturist doings, but ironically, in the opposite direction!

At this point, we have few concerns on the friends and family front – most of them know about our naturist doings. But here in the prudish US, sometimes things can get a bit tangly. This post makes an excellent case for coming out and coming clean about social nudity.

The very act of hiding our naturism reinforces the erroneous message that naturism is somehow immoral.  Many of us who actively promote ‘normalising naturism’ actually risk doing the opposite, because when someone stumbles across our social media profiles aimed at ‘normalising naturism’ and finds our faces pixilated, or turned from the camera, or never in the picture at all, the subliminal message is that being identified as a naturist carries risk, and that risk is interpreted as arising from the activity being somehow wrong.

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3 thoughts on “Why are we Hiding?

  1. This is an interesting and honest blog post, and I admire its intent, but like many efforts to encourage other naturists to ‘come out’ or even ‘come clean’, it overlooks some pretty big extenuating circumstances.
    There is, of course, the common one of the job or social status that prevents many from revealing they are naturists. As much as some would like to come out of the naturist closet, it isn’t necessarily as easy as some would have us think, and sometimes impossible.
    One also has to consider the impact on others. My wife and I choose to conceal our membership of a naturist club and our naturist holidays even from our (grown-up) children, for various reasons, but mainly because if we lay ourselves open to whatever negative comments that brings, that’s our choice, but ‘going public’ would cast some of the burden of defending their parents’ ‘weird’ or ‘unconventional’ hobbies on to them. And that’s just not fair, even though we’re pretty sure they would find it quite cool.
    Which brings me to the bottom line in this issue for me.
    Now that I am in my late fifties, I don’t really care much about what other people think about me, and if they really don’t approve of my innocent pastime or lifestyle, then hard luck.
    However – and it’s a big however – my wife really doesn’t want all the baggage that comes with naturism, and she especially doesn’t want to be on the wrong end of childish innuendo.
    So – whether I want to ‘come out’ or not – it’s up to her.
    Many articles and posts about ‘coming out’ as naturists wrongly assume that both halves of couples are equally committed to the cause. But the reality is one of the couple is usually the born naturist, and if he or she (usually he) is lucky, the wife joins in – not because she has suddenly discovered her inner naturist, but because she is kind enough to indulge her husband’s unconventional hobby.
    My wife doesn’t have a naturist bone in her body, so I use up all my favours just getting her to join me in social naturism, and it would be unfair to expect her to also put her head above the parapet for a naturist cause that she doesn’t really believe in.
    It seems to me that the best way to get more people into naturism is not to be evangelical and radical about it, but rather make it as easy and pain-free as possible for reluctant partners to get on board. There are plenty of them out there.

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    1. Thanks for that Graham. Really thoughtful!

      When we first came to naturism, I thought it would be a culture of tolerance. But as it turns out, people who are really passionate about a cause can be anything BUT tolerant, simply in their zeal FOR the cause. I think we ALL have unique circumstances that govern the decisions we make about our various roles in myriad social circles. Why can’t we just live and let live? – Let people decide how it plays best in their respective realities.

      You bring up an excellent perspective. Thanks again for that.


  2. A few years ago I ran head long into this problem and attitude. Ultimately it caused me to completely reevaluate and decide nude advocacy just wasn’t worth the hassle and aggravation. What the “cause” completely fails to see is just how far from “normal” certain nude advocates can tend to be.

    I feel the norm that people can more readily relate to is the ordinary person who’s ironically a reluctant nudist. They’re beset by the challenges of thoroughly enjoying nudity but due to social constraints can’t readily or openly indulge in it to the degree they’d like.

    This might align with the fact a lot of people don’t necessarily want to be socially nude. They just enjoy the outdoors and being naked.

    I think ordinary people expressing their struggle is more influential and relatable than strong advocacy and insistence of mass integration of social nudity into wider society.

    Go on those simply expressing their truth so others can relate. Change won’t occur any other way.

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